There are 5 things I would advise not to say to rich people. Especially if you want to be on their level without giving aways any of your authority. Some of the things I’m going to mention people
actually say all the time. But if you want to learn blend in with the
rich, you want to feel comfortable around them while at the same time be the likeable woman,
there are a few things you should think about. Number one. Don’t ask rich people: “So, what do you do?” It’s actually against etiquette to ask people
directly what they work with. It’s intrusive and, specially with rich people,
you know that they are doing quite well in life and sometimes when you ask them what
they’re doing you come across as an opportunistic person rather than somebody who is just doing
small talk. I guess it’s because rich people are always
on the watch out for people who are there in order to take advantage of them or have
some hidden agenda. They are a little bit more paranoid than “average
Joes”, which is why you should think about the types of topics you bring out when you
start talking to a rich person. They have their own kind of red flag alert
system whenever certain topics are arising and talking for instance a lot about work,
what somebody does and really getting into the investigation of it that doesn’t send out the right signals. And you don’t want to do that. But if you want to find out what somebody
does for a living, there are just other more elegant ways around it. Number one: BE PATIENT. The more you talk to a person, sooner or later
you are going to find out what the person works with. You can also stimulate the conversation by talking
about your own line of work, by trying to make a person open up more, maybe discuss
some business related topics. If there is an opportunity for it, always
ask for the person’s business card. There you will have a company listed, their
position. If none of them are listed, that is usually
a warning sign! If you really have to ask somebody, then there
is a better way to ask instead of the usual “What do you do?”. Ask them “What industry are you in?”. Because that give them the room, they can
decide how much they want to reveal and you are not being intrusive, not too direct, and
you are simply doing a low-key type of investigation. If you show rich people you are not fishing
for their title, you are not investigating who they are and what they do that is going
to be a big plus for you. Because they will start building trust for
you and with their trust you will reap a lot of benefits in the future. Number two: DON’T TRY TO IMPRESS. Never say things just to impress the rich,
to pretend you’re on the same level. Like I mentioned, because rich people hold
the wealth, the status, or the high position they are used to having people around them
trying very hard to impress them. But did you know that you look extremely insecure
when you are trying too hard! Rich people will know you are nobody when
you are trying very hard to play somebody. So while they are talking to you and if they
are polite and friendly, it doesn’t usually mean anything. Most often they have already placed you in
a category in their head meaning that you are not part of them and perhaps never going
to be on their level. Now I know we all might have interesting things
that have happened in the past, maybe we have a few milestones we wouldn’t mind to showcase
a bit, we have perhaps an interesting life CV that’s great! But it doesn’t mean that the whole world has
to know about it. There isn’t a perfect balance how much you
can reveal about yourself and put yourself in a positive light without coming across
as trying too hard. It’s about finding that perfect balance. I would say as a general rule do not try name
places you’ve been to, or name people you know, or things you have acquired. Make sure that this information riches them
in a an organic or alternative way. The best way is to have somebody talk about
you in a positive light. That is the best way if you want to impress
somebody and take note of your accomplishments. You don’t want to be the one who walks up
to somebody and do monologue “I’ve done this and this, and I’m so good!”. It pushes people away. This is a general rule but especially with
rich people they are used to have this type of approach when people are desperate and
try too hard to impress them. You don’t want to fall into that group. Take my advice: stay modest and be discreet. And maybe team up with the friends who can
speak highly about you. Number three: DON’T ASK ABOUT THEIR MONEY. Don’t be curious about rich person’s money
or possessions. Obvious one, right! Ladies, let me tell you one thing! Do you know how many times in high society
I’ve come across women, and few men too, when people start asking such direct and awkward
questions like “Do you have a yacht?”, “What car do you drive?” “Are you on the Forbes list?” I’ve heard all kinds of bizzare variations
and I know that some say it as a joke but you know that it’s not. They do want to know that. It’s not okay to be an investigator when you
are snooping around and trying to gather as much information as possible. The point is not to gather information but
to get to know a person naturally and build a relationship. We might be curious and we might want certain
answers but we have to stay patient, put this aside and never show our curiosity. There is another variation I forgot to mention,
this one, it’s so bad “I have a yacht, what about you?” When people want to find out answers in a
kind of “non-direct” way. That doesn’t work either. You see through it immidiately. Number four: DON’T TALK ABOUT YOUR MONEY. Never talk about your own money or possessions
in a negative way. This is an interesting variation because I
wasn’t going to tell you how you shouldn’t brag about about your money or your possessions
because this is obvious. Even talking negatively about your financial
situation is a very taboo topic that should be avoided with people that you don’t know. Rich people have red flags alerts, so if you start bringing up your own money, complaining, they might think that you are
fishing for something. Perhaps you know they are better off than
you are, so you are finishing for some help from them. That doesn’t mean that you can never talk negatively
about your financial situation, no. There is a big exception to this rule but
I talk about it in great detail in my online course the 7-step formula to high society but as a standard rule do not tell a rich person that you are broke, or out of money, or you
can’t afford this, or you complain that things are so expensive and you can’t afford it. It’s uncomfortable. It’s awkward. You are just sending off the wrong impression
and honestly talking about finances to a person you don’t know, it is a general no go rule. Number five: DON’T SAY: “NICE TO MEET YOU”. This might be a bit of a petty remark because this
is used by everyone and everywhere. When you say “nice to meet you” when you get
introduced to someone or you shake hands you come across as a bit submissive, kind of middle
class style. Like you are trying very hard to be polite,
nice, to be liked and that gives away your authority. When you give away your authority, you are
signaling that you are not on the same level as the rich. There is nothing wrong with being nice and
polite and I’m not advising you to stop being that, but there is different variation you
can start using. A variation that is used by old money and
upper class, they don’t say “nice to meet you”. They say “How do you do?” It’s polite, formal, very neutral, and at
the same time it’s confident and you are not giving away your authority by any form of submissive tone in the phrase. This will make you sound refined and educated and that you’re part of a certain level of people. That was it for me, ladies. Don’t forget to watch my next video!